4 Strategies to work with Childhood Trauma Triggers
This is part 2 of the last post 4 Childhood Trauma Triggers. In this blog post, you will identify 4 ways you can deal with each of the trauma triggers mentioned previously.
Rejection
Again, rejection hurts and it sucks, but what to do with it? How can we look at it differently? One thing you can do is reframe what happened to you, for example, you can remind yourself that rejection sucks, and it’s part of life, people have choices that have nothing to do with us. Accepting and rejecting are choices we make every day. There is no rejection, there are choices people make based on their own belief systems.
Narcissism
This one might hit hard! What to do when someone is being self-centered, inconsiderate and has very low empathy? When dealing with narcissism it is important to know that this person is at a different level of consciousness than you. I am not saying you are better or worse, I am saying that we are in different “times” and we all have different emotional maturity levels. If they don’t do their healing work, don’t bother. If they are not part of your inner circle, don’t bother. If they are family, have proper boundaries. Keep conversations very superficial and minimal. They are stuck in their trauma, but you don’t have to be stuck with them, you don`t have to take it personally, what they do is not a reflection of you, it is about them.
Violation of boundaries
What to do with it? Whenever you feel that your boundaries are violated, speak up. Talk for anger, but do not act on it. If you are in a situation where it feels impossible to speak up, learn from it and do it differently next time. And if that situation repeats itself, what will you do differently? Ask yourself, ok if I can’t speak up right now, what can I do with it differently next time? I will have more boundaries in place, I will empower myself, I will be firm and kind, or I will disengage myself if the abuse continues. What will my boundaries look like? What can I learn from this situation?
Abandonment
Kids do tend to take everything personally, it`s just how it is, it`s healthy narcissism, they need their parents to survive. Your inner child is the one who feels hurt and alone. Your adult knows reality is different. The key is to show your inner child that you are an adult now, you are tall and independent, and you will never abandon them, you know why? Because this child will always live within you. The two of you are inseparable, there is no abandonment. Everyone else has the right to leave you, but you do not have the right to abandon yourself! We cannot control what people do. You can’t get rid of your little one inside, you know why? Because whenever you feel something it’s your inner child telling you something, it’s important to listen.
Conclusion
I hope this blog post was helpful for you to go inward and start your healing process. The key is to go inside. If you want structured sessions and professional help with healing childhood trauma, feel free to contact me for a 20-minute consultation call or book an appointment to see how I might be able to help you.
